I Watched a Mom Hit Her Kid in a Thrift Store Tonight

Please scroll down to read the origional article before reading my response. It may make a little more sense.

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Let me preface my comment by saying that I’m NOT a parent. Ironically, I have been writing a book on “how to be a good parent” through my own reflections and observations of other parents.

1st: This is a VERY well written post, organized, vivid and thought-pravoking.

2. My 2 cents is that most physical pain inflicted on kids is unjustified. Discounting child psychopaths (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/thinking-about-kids/201205/psychopaths-children-and-evil), no child deserves to be hurt.

And HURT is the key word. Up to a point where rational, cognitive thinking develops, a light, quick spanking may be the only “reminder” that a child’s actions are inappropriate and will not be tolorated. As a kid, my brother and I had levels of punishment. Most disciplining resulted in a “time out,” cooling off in our rooms or standing in a corner until mom let us out. Then there was a “weak” spanking; mom swat us with her hand or, if she meant business, a thin, wooden spoon. If my brother and I STILL misbehaved, mom would alert my dad when he came home from work…..THEN WE WOULD GET IT! Dad’s hand spanking was waaay worse than mom’s with a big wooden spoon. Knowing this, I would fake cry and moan so mom would think her punishment was enough. The difference between the two types of spankings is that mom used them sparingly to remind us who had authority and deserved respect. The woman in the store seems to have lashed out of frustration from lack of control.

Pondering this article, her problem is something plaguing society. Fear. The woman hit her kid from fear of loosing control. She lost control out of fear of loosing her child’s respect; That she was a bad parent. In actuality, her fear was not for loosing control of her kids but control of her mental state in a stressful situation.

Like most reactions of anger and/or violence, the problem lies in our own self-perception. Assume the child was yelling, crying and acting up in the store; making a scene. Who cares? Why are we concerned with the possiblity that strangers may secretly think we are loosing control of our kids? (At least we are not hitting them!)
Assume we want to quickly shop and get on with our day and the kid is making the same scene. BE PATIENT. That’s the nature of raising a child….so plan your day accordingly. As someone who wears oxygen, I must plan my outings with 2-hour tank intervals. It takes more time to plan and carry but that’s the nature of life. No use wining about it.

Your post has lead me to write this response through stream of consciousness. Wooo…..thank you for the inspiration!

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Celebrate Life!

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I love this sentiment! It’s just a duh, Idea. Most of the time we feel like we’re grinding through our lives, waiting for something inspiring or exciting to uplift our spirits and motivate us. It seems that we expect disappointment in life and seek an easy solution. What we need to understand is that, in the long run, negativity (even if it’s passive) takes more effort and causes more stress than the effort it takes to keep a positive frame of mind. Why don’t more people choose positivity? Because working a mental process takes diligence and fortitude: you must CHOOSE to be positive. By celebrating EVERYTHING you are taking decisive steps to build a happy soul.

If you’re interested in learning the difference between happiness and true joy, while uplifting your soul, check out this post: https://breathethislife.wordpress.com/2014/04/07/uplift-your-soul-in-only-4-minutes/

God Bless,

~ Breathe This Life ~

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Brotherly Basketball Bonding

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Brothers with #thedragon

I love basketball and have been a die-hard Pheonix Suns fan since 1993. At that time, the stars of the team were Kevin Johnson, Tom Chambers and Dan Majerly. My brother Dan and our friend Kevin would pretend to be their name sakes while I played mine, “Tom” Chambers. The three of us would often get together with all the neighborhood boys for pickup games of 1 on 2, 2 on 2, 2 on 3, 3 on 3…..you get the picture. Back then, EVERYONE had a hoop so it was easy for us to spontaneously start games no matter at whose house we were playing. I remember one day all us boys were in back of my neighbor’s home, WWF wrestling and having a great ‘ol time, when each of us spontaneously eyeballed each other, shook our shoulders and said, “I’m bored, let’s go play basketball.”

Pickup Fantasy Games

Pickup Fantasy Games

Despite our nonchallant decision to play basketball, each of us aimed at fiercly destoying the other team. Our style and creativity of play resembled that of All-Star competitions: domination through sheer scoring. We marked off the corners of the driveway for 3-pointers, lowered the rim to 7 feet and even used a mini-trampoline to get mad hops for some crazy jams. I remember one day when no one was home, I brought out the trampoline to practice my dunking skills. I wanted to be like Dr. J.

Everything was going fine as I grabbed some mad hang time….untill I got a little too cocky.

I was working a Jimmy Dolan “Shake And Bake” from the film, “The Air Up There” before pouncing on the trampoline. **BOOM!** I slammed the ball, swinging on the rim for emphasis. Unfortunately, my hands slipped as the centrifugal force brought my legs forward. I fell back….and since my neck is fused and has no mobility, I wasn’t able to brace myself, landing flat as a board. As you can guess, I whacked the back of my head on the hard concrete, knocking me unconscious for a few momements.

But I got up, the bump healed and all that remained was the memory of that awsome high-flighing adventure!

Fast forward twenty-two years.  My brother came home to visit and out of the blue asked if I’d like to go to a Suns game with him….the next day! Really?? He’s been traveling around the world, stops in for a couple days and decides to spontaneously go to a game- without even considering price, availabilty or overcoming physical challenges. I am not jelous, nor would I change my life experiences but sometimes I wish those who work hard just to maintain would get a little more credit. Fortunately for me, I have a loving family who appreciates my perseverence yet pushes me to reach for the stars.

That encouragement inspires confidence and makes me want to, as the Army says, “Be All I Can Be.

Back to the story….I was hesitant to attend the Suns game because my life usually follows Murphy’s Law:  Whatever can go wrong will go wrong.” Fortunately for me, Dan’s excitement was contageous and I soon forgot my nervous oxygen calculations, throwing on a huge smile. I am extremely appreciative of my brother for the way he he motivates me to overcome worries, allowing me to join events most people take for granted. In that way, he helps me feel “normal.”

good times.

good times.

YES! Let’s do it! I bought two upper deck tickets online (because what’s a live sporting event without a nose bleed?!) and prepared for adventure. I packed my oxgen tanks, I rolled a double tank and my brother carried an extra, a disabled parking plackard, cell phone, wallet and a willingness to embarass myself in the name of fandom. An hour drive later we arrived at our center court seats. Although we were super high up, the arena was half capacity, giving us a fantastic, direct view of the entire game.

great view!

great view!

Most of the Suns players were new to me so it fun being surprised by their impressive quickness, passes and dunks. At one point, a Suns player inbounded the ball and quickly threw it upcourt for an open layup. #BAM! In Yo Face Spurs!! That night was a fantastic, continuous bombardment on my senses. Bright lights, bumpin’ music, cheering hotties, deliciously unhealthy popcorn, nachos & hotdogs, fast-paced-action; all of which were made possible by the steady flow of portible oxygen.

Bonding: Something To Cheer For!

Bonding: Something To Cheer For!

To add a cherry on the delicious sundae which was the basketball event, the Suns demolished the Spurs, ahead 20 pts almost the entire game. Watching a live Phoenix Suns game brought me back to my childhood while allowing me to make new, grown up memories with my brother. I feel so blessed that even as our lives change and we each take on more responsibilities, our relationship grows stronger.

I guess the moral of the story is don’t worry. Take chances. Ignore the inevitable discompfort you’ll feel becasuse in the long run, it is fleeting and you will soon be back to normal. All that remains is the happy memory of what you experienced. #Dontworry #Behappy  ~ Breathe This Life ~

Courtside, after the win!

Courtside, after the win!

Oxygen and Travel – we have it covered

It’s a wonder what the human mind will create. Through my investigation, maximum output is 3 liters on constant flow. If that works for you, pick one up and go after your dreams!

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Travelling with oxygen has become much easier with the development of portable oxygen concentrators (POCs). These devices run on a battery pack, can be recharged, plugged into the wall or a cigarette lighter in a car, and can be taken on airplanes.

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There are several makes and models, with widely differing features, so it is important to choose the one that is best for you, that delivers enough oxygen to keep your saturation 90 percent or greater at rest and with activity.

Some tips for air travel with POC’s:

·         Start making arrangements with the airline well ahead of time to find out which POC is allowed. Many airlines list accepted manufacturers and brands on their websites.

·         Allow plenty of extra time for check-in.

·         Carry several extra battery packs. FAA regulations require enough battery time to cover 150 percent of the flight time.

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Blessings Don’t Always Appear Benificial

I am extremely grateful for every person and situation in my life, both uplifting and challenging. My life is great, not from what is in it but because I am alive to experience it!

It can be a bit frustrating, though, when people without breathing or health issues make their glass half-full situations sound half empty. Do they not understand how blessed they are?? It is difficult to feel sympathy for that….

I guess everyone adopts their own perspective based on life situaions. I can not control how others experience the world but I CAN be thankful for those experiences that make me a stronger person.

That is why everyday I make a conscious effort to thank God for each blessing bestowed on me. Even the hurdles that cause me to stumble can be tools that strengthen my stamina and perseverence.

As Eric Idle from Monty Python sang, “Always look on the bright side of life.”

 

Improving Your Mental Productivity

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The ability to be productive starts in the mind. Forming good habits is important but gaining control over your life starts with control over your mentality.

If you’re anything like me, you begin with the best of intentions to accomplishing a goal….but somehow find myself frustrated, quitting from lack of progress. What Happened?!?!

Speaking from experience, I have been excited by the thought of accomplishing a goal but when it came down to putting in the time and effort, I’d get “distracted.”

Take writing a blog, for example: I organize lists and blog notes by topic and entry, allot time for focussed writing and set up a clean workspace with a wide open, inspiring view of nature. I do all this to dedicate time to my primary goals: expressing my joy through blogging, cooking, traveling and socializing with friends and family.

However, even on the most organized days, random thoughts and less urgent goals may break my concentration, causing me to loose my train of thought and inspirational flow. Some people may have the misconception that being distracted is the same as not being motivated; that loosing focus is a lack of will power.

Having overcome life-and-death obstacles, I know beating the odds isn’t just a matter of mental strength but also mental fortitude. We can accomplish any task with conviction and dedication.

As Rocky Balboa said,

“It’s not how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can GET hit and keep getting up.”

Motivation is necessary to keep getting up but discipline is needed to put in the effort once standing. That combination builds resiliency, an important attribute to overcoming any obstacle.

After all, attaining goals is not just about how well we overcome obstacles but how much we can keep going in the face of those challenges. Motivation, DisciplineResilience, Mental Fortitude: It all comes down to Action.

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Below is an easy to follow instructional video that will guide you though steps to become more productive.

Before you watch it, take the initiative of sharing the love: Click the “Like” button, post a comment and re-post.

~ Breathe Easy ~